Love in Relationships

How much do you Love Yourself?

Monday, 17 January 2022, we had a beautiful Full Moon in Cancer.  We were blessed with her magnificent presence in the clear night skies.

Did you see it?  Even if you didn’t see Her, if you are sensitive like me, no doubt you will have felt her energies moving through your emotions like cleansing waters.  The sign of Cancer is deeply emotional and sensitive, being connected with the element of water.   It is concerned with the home and our mothering – how much we were mothered and looked after when we were young and how we mother ourselves now.  It makes sense that mother issues will come up for healing.

Combined with Venus and Mercury both in retrograde, this is a powerful phase, helping us explore how much we Love ourselves and how we express and receive love in our relationships.

How much do you love yourself?

Is there room in your heart to Love yourself even more unconditionally?

I am aware from a few women I spoke to, that last weekend was very testing for many, and for me too.  Bringing into focus what it means to feel loved and be love.  Our close relationships, offer a mirror to our own unresolved wounds and traumas, or on the flipside, our own brilliance, the gifts we may admire in another but not own ourselves.

When we are triggered, it can be very painful.  But with our Higher Self’s guidance, we have this opportunity to move through this challenge and see the gift of healing it brings.

If you do get triggered, take some time out to soothe and heal yourself.

Reflect on what has happened from a higher perspective.

Look through the eye of the Eagle at the patterns that may be being played out.  Most likely both parties are being triggered, acting out from a wounded place.

Step back and come back to your heart.

Breathe.

Own your part in it and then do what you can to heal, soothe and forgive yourself and any others involved. Get in touch if you need support.  Part of loving yourself is knowing you deserve to be loved and supported.

‘How I love you’ – Song

‘How I love you’ is a great little song I sometimes sing to soothe and heal my inner child.  It is something Chloe Goodchild creator of ‘Naked Voice’ uses in her voice coaching …. Our voices have the power to heal and empower! Have a go yourself.

It allows me to reclaim parts of myself that need loving unconditionally. Mother ancestral wounding is often present too for us.  As we heal ourselves, you can direct your love down your mother line.

Use whatever spiritual healing tools you have to bring healing attention to yourself, whether it is using affirmations in meditation, placing a soothing hand on the part of you that hurts, taking deep breaths in nature and letting it all go – let the great Mother heal you – EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is also great for allowing the tapping to let go of tension held in your body and to bring in what you truly wish to feel and experience.

I am loving my sound healing with my Crystal and Himalayan singing bowls which I use daily.  It creates wonderful shifts of vibration at a cellular level and is a great way to keep our energies clean and clear.  I am now including these in my Retreat days and come February I will be offering 1:1 sessions in my Healing Room at home in Poole.

It’s a good time to reflect on how open we are to Love and being Loved in our relationships.

How we express Love is unique to each person.  In the book ‘The Five Love Languages’, Dr Gary Chapman explores the five different ways we express and receive love – Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. He shares his experience of working with many female and male clients and what it means ‘to express heartfelt commitment to your mate’.  It is worthwhile spending some time exploring what your own Love language is and what your partner or members of your family are.  This way you can begin to see where your needs and desires may or may not be being met.

Developing a strong sense of self-love and acceptance is important to maintain healthy boundaries in relationship with anyone.

Know that you are Loved
You are worthy of Love
You do not need to prove yourself worthy
You are Love

You do not need to behave in certain ways to receive Love, like you may have done as a child.

Our unresolved trauma left unhealed will continue to search for it outside ourselves so focussing on mothering and nurturing yourself is key to opening and expanding the heart.

Know you are completely Loved by the Universe, your Higher Self, your  spirit Guides, Angels and your Ancestors.  They stand by you, constantly sending you love and encouragement to help you attain your highest potential.

The veils between Earth and Spirit are dissolving as they can no longer remain in place as the vibrations on Earth continue to rise.  We know because the Schumann Resonance (the measure of the energetic pulse from the Earth) has risen exponentially in recent weeks and months. This allows us to receive even more healing when we are out in Nature.   It is much more easy for us to reach our spirit guides and receive healing from the unseen helpers from the magical realms, so remember to ‘Ask and you will receive’.

It’s helpful to be aware that as our vibrations elevate the old dense energy can no longer stay hidden.  All is arising within and without. Truths are being revealed.  Old structures and belief systems are crumbling, and we have this opportunity to step more fully into our Mastery and to claim our Creator self.

I am reminded in my spiritual practice this morning how much more powerful we are becoming as Co-Creators of our Universe and the New Earth. Our thoughts are powerful.  It is important therefore, to only focus on what we truly want to bring into our lives.  It is important to be aware when we may be falling back into old thought and belief patterns so we can change them before they become a reality.

Time is moving so much more quickly and so our thoughts have the power to manifest fast.

Focus on the qualities you want to embody and experience NOW.

Stop any negative thoughts and conversations your ego tells you.   Say to yourself –

STOP, DELETE, RECREATE

We are in the phase of building solid foundations for the New Earth – one which is based on love, compassion, respect, kindness and unity.  All the qualities of a united and open heart.  The Sun entered the sign of Aquarius on 19 January and so the new Golden Age of Aquarius is building right now, one thought, one heartbeat at a time.

What do you want to feel and experience as the evolving You?

Fill in the blanks

I AM ……

Here’s some examples

I AM …..LOVE
I AM …… JOY
I AM …. BEAUTIFUL
I AM ….. PERFECT HEALTH
I AM …. DESERVING OF LOVE
I AM ….. ABUNDANT
I AM ….. RADIANT
I AM ….. PLAYFUL
I AM ….. HOPEFUL

With hand on your heart, say out loud your affirmation. Let the Universe hear you!
Feel it
Breathe it
Embody it

Dare to Dream 2022 and beyond…

What in your wildest imagination do you dare to dream for yourself?

Declare your wishes to the Universe
Offer a Sacred Prayer to the Universe
Such as….

May my day be filled with……
Please help me with…….
I am ready and open to receive …….

With our hearts open we become the magnet to our heart’s greatest desires.

Spring Events

I am delighted to offer the first of my Spring workshops:

Awaken your Goddess Flame of Love – Saturday 26 February 2022
2-5 pm @ The Retreat, New Forest, Hampshire.
Ignite your creativity and passion.
Full details here.

Plus

Creative Goddess Spring Workshop – Saturday 26 March 10- 5pm
Nourish, Renew, Rebalance
@ The Retreat, The New Forest
Full details to come

Sound Healing 1:1 and groups to come this Spring.

In February I will be offering Sound healing 1:1 at my home in Poole. More details to come.

PLUS group Sound Healing sessions at The Retreat, The New Forest
Save the dates:
2nd March lunchtime New Moon 1.15 pm – 2.45 pm
Then evening sessions every fortnight
Starting Wednesday 26 March 7.30 – 9pm £20
Full details to come